News India Live, Digital Desk: Do you too often forget your own happiness while trying to make people happy? Do you find saying ‘no’ to someone the hardest thing in the world? If your answer is ‘yes’, then rest assured you are not alone. Most of us suppress our feelings and needs for fear of upsetting others. But the result is that we keep suffocating within. There is only one way to avoid this suffocation – to set ‘healthy boundaries’ in relationships. This does not mean being selfish or running away from people. It simply means, respecting yourself and giving first priority to your mental peace. So the question is, how to set these limits so that the other person does not feel bad and our point is also maintained? Let us know some easy methods.1. Understand yourself first: Before setting any limits, you have to know what your limits are. Sit quietly and think about what things bother you or take advantage of you. Don’t you like people calling you at untimely hours? Or a friend repeatedly borrows money from you and does not return it? Unless you recognize these problems of yours, you will not be able to stop others.2. Express your feelings, not blame. Avoid an angry or accusatory tone when setting boundaries. Instead, express your feelings politely. For example, instead of saying “You always make fun of me,” you could say “I feel a little sad when jokes like that happen.” By talking in this way, the other person will understand what you are saying and he will not feel bad.3. Learn to say ‘no’ politely. Saying ‘no’ is an art. You don’t have to keep everyone happy. If you don’t feel like doing any work or you are tired, then refuse clearly but lovingly. You don’t need to make long excuses every time. Remember, people who really care about you will respect your ‘no’ too.4. Stick to what you say Once you set a boundary, it is very important to stick to it. If you sometimes say ‘yes’ and sometimes ‘no’, people will not take you seriously. People may find it a little strange in the beginning, but gradually they will get used to it and learn to respect your boundaries. Creating boundaries in relationships is the first step towards a healthy and happy life. Only when you respect yourself, the world also respects you.