A common problem in long-term relationships is that sexual desire decreases over time. Many people admit that they have sex only once every few months. This is no longer unusual. While romance and excitement are strong in the beginning, after a few years intimacy in the relationship remains, but the frequency of sexual intercourse decreases.
According to psychology, this is a natural process. At the beginning of a relationship, the body produces hormones that make us feel intense attraction towards each other. But as the relationship stabilizes, the oxytocin hormone becomes more active. This hormone makes us feel emotional security and connected, but reduces sexual desire. So love does not diminish, but passion is not the same as before.
This problem is seen more in women than in men. Social upbringing, negative body beliefs, bad experiences and burden of responsibilities affect women’s sexual desire. Additionally, when the emotional connection in a relationship is weak, women’s libido decreases even more. It is also true that women’s sexual satisfaction is often not given priority in heterosexual relationships, which reduces their sexual satisfaction.
Lack of sex in a relationship is not a problem, but not discussing it becomes a problem. If couples do not openly discuss their likes, dislikes and needs, emotional distance can gradually increase. Communication is the lifeblood of a relationship, it not only improves sexual connection but also deepens the relationship.
Sex is not the only means of intimacy. Even small affectionate gestures like hugs, kisses, and holding hands strengthen the relationship. It is often seen that couples stop being physically connected to each other in everyday life, and then suddenly expect sexual relations, which naturally feels like pressure. So showing regular touch and affection is very important for emotional closeness.
Finally, it is essential to understand that affection is important along with sex to maintain relationships. Lying, talking or cuddling together after sex increases trust, belonging and satisfaction in the relationship. Studies have also proven that affection after sex increases relationship happiness manifold, especially in women.
