In the present times, the incidence of divorce is increasing rapidly all over the world. Many times such issues arise after marriage which gradually weaken the love and understanding. Lack of communication, unrealistic expectations and not understanding each other all make relationships burdensome.
Relationship coach Jawal Bhatt shared 15 main reasons for increasing cases of divorce on social media on October 9.
Hastily arranged marriage: When marriage takes place between persons who do not know each other well, conflicts are natural. Jawal Bhatt says that couples doing arranged marriage should take time to understand each other for at least 6 months to 1 year before marriage.
Not discussing important issues: Many couples do not discuss important topics openly before marriage, such as career, family, or planning to have children. These things become the cause of fights later. It is very important to communicate honestly.
Disparity in saying and doing: Some promises are made before marriage, but later they are not kept. This inequality causes frustration and distrust.
Marriage based on attraction: If a marriage is based only on physical attraction or looks, it will not last long. Jawal says that marriage should be based on similarity of lifestyle and thinking.
Imbalance between work and personal life: When both or one of the husband and wife is constantly busy with work, there is no time left for the relationship. This distance gradually creates coolness in the mind.
Unrealistic Expectations: Many times we have too many expectations from our partner emotionally, financially or physically. When these are not fulfilled, tension begins to arise in the relationship.
lack of effort: Every relationship requires constant effort. If the habit of expressing love or appreciation ends, the warmth of the relationship also ends.
Emotional Distance: When one partner gives up trying to connect with the heart, the other starts feeling lonely. Emotional connection is the foundation of any marriage.
Lack of praise and humor: In the beginning the couples compliment each other and joke, but later it all stops. Light flirting and laughter keep the relationship alive.
Lack of self-reflection: It is easy to blame your partner for every mistake, but self-reflection is necessary. Relationships can be managed only by understanding your mistakes.
Interference from family or friends: When there is excessive interference from outsiders in a marriage, conflict between the couple increases. It is better to solve your problems amongst yourselves.
Threatening divorce: Raising the issue of divorce over small matters becomes the first step towards breaking the relationship. It becomes not an emotional weapon, but a warning to end the relationship.
Affairs: Due to boredom or dissatisfaction in marriage, some people get entangled in outside relationships. This not only constitutes cheating, but also shakes the foundation of the relationship.
Taking everything personally: It is natural to have differences in relationships. But if everything is taken to heart, then even small things turn into big fights.
Social Media Comparison: Nowadays people start comparing their relationships after seeing the ‘perfect life’ of others. This creates unrealistic expectations and insecurities. Remember, every relationship’s story is different.
