You have a shining personality. You are at the top of your game in your career. You have meaningful relationships, and yet, when it comes to the dating game, you fall behind. Does this sound like you?

Finding the one who matches your vibes is a mammoth task in this day and age, let alone "the one". While dating apps offer endless profiles and matches, the chances of meeting someone who could be your potential partner are relatively low. In fact, smart men usually struggle with dating, according to Blaine Anderson, a matchmaker and dating coach. In a video shared on Instagram, the dating coach explained the reason behind this and also suggested some tips.

Why the smart ones struggle when it comes to finding love

As someone who has helped hundreds of young people connect with their perfect partner, Blaine Anderson observed that the smart ones often suffer. Yes, that’s right. Cupid seems to be non-existent for these guys.

So, what’s the reason behind this? The truth is, they themselves are the biggest reason. What’s that? It’s analysis paralysis. You think, and think, and think, even before making a move.

"It is because you overthink every possible outcome and talk yourself out of making a move," the coach said.

Yes, that’s right. Overthinking is your biggest enemy. That’s killing all the sparks Cupid is sending your way. "It's too much thinking and not enough doing," she said.

How do you break this jigsaw puzzle? "The next time you see a beautiful woman, stop analysing and start approaching," the coach added.

How to fix it?

Beyond overthinking, certain factors prevent you from finding your forever partner. Identifying and fixing those pitfalls is the best way forward. But how do you do it? Anderson has shared three tips that may help you.

Unfollow those Instagram models: "If you are still single, this is your sign. Unfollow any Instagram models you are thirsting over. It's not helping you," the dating coach said.

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Step out: The most important part of acing the dating game. You have to step out into the real world. "Put your phone down and get outside the house because you're not going to meet women on your couch," Anderson suggested.

Just talk: Now comes the crucial part. Start talking. That’s where you can begin. "Go talk to a girl! Take the pressure off. It doesn't have to be romantic or flirtatious," she said.

No single manual will make you the best at the dating game. But Anderson’s advice will certainly get you started. You can take it further from there.