When it comes to tenants, does renting to a single man differ from renting to a single woman? According to a landlord named Randy, the answer is yes for one very specific reason.
Credit checks, job stability, and references certainly matter, and for the most part, landlords rely on this evidence when accepting or rejecting applicants. But after 3 decades in real estate, Randy confessed that there are some behavioral differences that exist between single renters, especially if their relationship status changes mid-lease.
Randy insisted in a recent video that all renters, regardless of gender and relationship status, are more than capable of meeting their monthly payment obligations, but observationally, he’s noticed that when it comes to single women, they often hand over control of financial obligations to partners more readily than men, and it can be to their detriment.
Reflecting as an oracle in the field, he advised, “If a woman comes over,…[A male renter] doesn’t ever let her move in.”Asserting that a male renter remains in control of his space and his lease. That separation doesn’t seem to happen when a single woman renter begins dating.
In contrast, a single woman who starts dating mid-lease tends to move a man in and relinquish control of both her space and her financial obligations before he deserves it.
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“A guy is coming over, staying.” With a pause and clarification, Randy notes that the man is someone who welcomes his entitlement. “He starts controlling her domain,” Randy asserted. He gave the example of stopping by to do maintenance while his female renter is at work to find her new boyfriend and all his friends playing video games and making themselves at home. That, he argued, doesn’t happen with a male renter.
The question becomes then: is the girlfriend of a male renter more conscientious about personal space, or is this really a boundary issue that proves women are conditioned to simply hand over control of their “domain” because it’s what is always expected of them?
The repeated mentions of “domain” highlight its importance and concern for the equality of space and the people themselves, beyond the money aspect. She’s working her behind off, trying to pay rent. Never fails. The rent starts slipping.” As one commenter noted, “Our biggest downfall is wanting to be caretakers for people that don’t care for us.”
Katharine Chan, MSc, BSc, PMP, wrote in a piece for Very Well Mind, “Does it ever feel like the rules in your relationship don’t apply to both of you equally? Like maybe your partner gets called ambitious for being a workaholic, but you get called selfish for devoting yourself to your career. Or maybe you expect to be forgiven quickly for your mistakes, but hold your partner to a much harsher standard. These are examples of double standards in relationships — unfair and often unspoken expectations that can gradually erode your connection and trust over time.” Granted, double standards can go both ways, but people pleasing, especially in a relationship, is more often than not a female trait.
As one commenter noted, “He starts eating her food. Hiking up her bills. Demanding money and help. Taking up space. Destroying and damaging stuff she has to replace. Her money shrinks even tho she works more and rent is late. Ladies learn the lesson. He isn’t shaming you, he’s trying to open your eyes. Protect your domain.”
Does this mean don’t get involved in a relationship? Absolutely not. What it does mean, however, is don’t rush a relationship. Keep your lives separate until you know that the person you are dating is on the same page as you. You don’t need to share everything to prove your feelings.
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Emi Magaña is a writer from Los Angeles with a bachelor’s in English. She covers entertainment, news, and the real human experience.
