In matters of love, the heart often takes leave of the mind. Then the question arises that why do girls fall in love with those boys, on whom family members, friends and society have already labeled them as “scoundrels”. Those boys whose attitude seems dangerous, whose words ooze confidence and with whom you feel that life is going on like a movie. In the beginning, this thrill pleases the heart and it seems that nothing can be better or different than this.
But later it becomes difficult to live with such boys. Is it just a game of attraction or is there some deep psychological reason behind it? Seema Anand spoke openly on this interesting question in the podcast. He told why girls are attracted towards bad boys.
Seema Anand believes that it is very important for women to understand what toxic men are like. Unless a girl herself goes through such a relationship, she does not realize which habits she should stay away from. Toxic relationships become a lesson in a way, so that the right person can be valued in the future.
Most of us believe that bad guys have a different confidence and charm. In the beginning, his style, way of speaking and carefree nature seem very attractive. Many times we feel that “he is a good person inside”, it is just a little misunderstood.
Living with bad boys, the picture starts changing with time. The same person, who once seemed cool, now starts being insulting. Love turns into obsession and confidence takes the form of arrogance. This is where you start to understand that this relationship is not uniting you, but is breaking you.
It was also said in the podcast that face and charm often win hearts in the beginning, but the real relationship rests on respect. It takes some time to understand the importance of respect, but once it is understood, priorities automatically change.
Seema Anand said that when girls come out of toxic relationships, they realize how important stability, respect and emotional security are. That’s when Green Flag boys, who are calm, understanding and respectful, start appearing as real partners.
