Women’s Desires after Motherhood: Becoming a mother brings joy, as well as responsibilities, and the pressure of unwanted expectations and opinions from family and society. In society, a woman is often expected to choose family and motherhood over self-interest. If a woman speaks of her desires, career, or dreams in such a situation, she is considered wrong and selfish. But is it really wrong for a woman to think for herself? Let’s find out in this article.
In Indian society, it has always been believed that a woman’s entire life is dedicated to her home, family, and children. In our society, a virtuous woman is not one who dreams. Rather, she is called one who forgets herself and becomes the embodiment of love. She suppresses her career, her desires, and her dreams in raising her children. She is called a good mother in society. If a woman does not do this and chooses to pursue her dreams along with raising her children, then society considers her selfish. In the eyes of her family, she is more selfish than a good mother. For whom her own dreams are more important than raising her children.
It’s not selfish for anyone, even a mother, to have their own identity, career, desires, or dreams. After becoming a mother, a woman’s life is never the same as it was before. Life changes, and the pace of work slows down, but that doesn’t mean a woman should forget herself or ignore her desires. The right solution after becoming a mother is to balance her career, her dreams, and raising her child, not to choose between career and parenting.
Impact on a woman’s mental health: If a woman consistently suppresses or ignores her desires and dreams, she may suffer from depression and anxiety. Feelings like she can’t do anything, that she has no contribution to the family, that she has no identity beyond that of a mother, wife, daughter, or daughter-in-law can fill her mind.
Its impact on children: A mentally ill woman is unable to provide a proper upbringing for her child. While she may take care of small things like eating, playing, and studying, she is unable to provide emotional support. A mother’s stress cannot teach her children to respect their own desires and feelings. Unintentionally, a mother’s stress is transmitted to the child, and the child also feels the mother’s stress fully.
In today’s times, when everything has become modern, a mother also needs to modernize her thinking. A woman needs to understand that she has become a mother, not a god or a saint who must give up all her desires. Even as a mother, it is important for a woman to set her limits, recognize her needs, and express them openly. Instead of bearing the entire pressure of parenting alone, she should not hesitate to ask for help from her partner and family. Don’t constantly ignore her small hobbies or needs. Along with raising her children, consider your mental health as important.
