A day before Valentine’s Day, we want to ask you an important question: Have you ever wondered what the greatest gift you can give you and your partner in a relationship? The truth is that there is no single correct answer. But if you have to choose a gift, then consider this.
Famous Indian spiritual guru Premanand Maharaj said, ‘Love means finding your happiness in the happiness of someone else.’
Giving your partner the freedom to do what makes them happy is the greatest gift you can give them. When you see them living life the way they want and being happy within themselves, you are actually giving yourself a gift.
In fact, the foundation of the relationship is based on this understanding. But the sad thing is that many people start controlling in the name of love – what to wear, what to do, who to meet. In this effort they unknowingly harm their relationship.
If you feel that you too are becoming controlling and want to make your relationship a safe and secure place for your partner, then rest assured, we are here to help you.
Giving advice on everything or finding instant solutions is not love. Sometimes all your partner needs is someone to listen to them carefully, without judging or interrupting. When you really listen, the other person feels that their feelings are safe, and this builds the strength of the relationship.
Having your own choice of partner, friends and world is not against the relationship. Giving them space doesn’t show that you don’t care, but it shows that you trust them. Remember, love is freedom, not prison.
Often the habit of controlling stems from our own insecurities. As you better understand and accept yourself, the need to control others diminishes. Only a secure person can make a relationship truly secure.
