My husband is a big liar and cheater. He has gone to Saudi Arabia, and neither does he come back nor does he call me there. Sometimes I feel like taking revenge on him by becoming friends with someone else too. But whenever I talk to someone, it never lasts more than two days because I don’t really feel any interest. I have tried many times to make a friend, but whenever I start going down that path, I feel a lot of guilt and immediately step back.

But deep inside, I am burning with the desire for revenge. Just like he ignores me, I also want to ignore him and get so busy in my own life that I stop caring about him completely. I do not want divorce or khula.

Please advise me on what I should do. I cannot understand any way forward. I just keep feeling depressed and sad all the time.

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Solutions: Nadia Sharif

“Unfortunately, in our culture, if a woman takes revenge, she is considered characterless. And if anyone finds out — whether it’s your family or your husband — they will only degrade you, regardless of what he did.

Start doing a job, and if things still don’t improve, then you should take khula. That’s the best option I can suggest to you. Stay strong and believe in yourself.”

Ch Fahad Shahbaz Bhutta

“Instead of guiding her and giving her a positive solution, you people are making fun of her. Come on, guys — this could happen to anyone’s sister. Be mature, optimistic, and helpful. Thank you.”

Muhammad Nadeem

“It is not a solution to take revenge. Instead, look for lawful ways, such as obtaining a divorce and finding a life partner of your own choice.”

Ateeb Hashmi

“Revenge is a dangerous motive. Talk to him and try to resolve the issues by communicating with each other. Wishing both of you the best of luck.”

This story was taken from the official DHA Ladies Facebook group, which has more than 131k followers.”

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