How long to accumulate clouds in the sky of love! At the beginning of the relationship, the person’s phone screen would light up with messages, night after night would be spent in whispering phone conversations, suddenly how he changed one day! As soon as they came closer, the distance increased. Like a piece of camphor. Without opening the package, it went away in the wind. The new name of this scam of love is ‘Puffer-fishing’ (Puffer-fishing). The word has been all the rage lately in Gen G dating dictionaries.
Although the name has a fishy smell, it has nothing to do with sea salt water. Rather, it is a complex psychology of the depths of the mind. There is a spring breeze at the beginning of such a relationship. Deep love, frequent meetings, emotional exchanges. But as soon as the relationship gets a little more stable, the depth increases, the person on the opposite side changes. He folds himself for no reason. Someone cut down on the phone, someone answered the message after two days. Go like camphor without giving anyone or any excuse.
According to author Katy Morton, this behavior is similar to that of puffer fish. When this fish sees danger in the sea, it inflates itself into a barbed ball. A group of people do exactly this in relationships. When they get too close, an invisible alarm bell rings in their minds. They think, this is their own freedom! This means that you are going to get stuck in the chain. In fact, they built an impenetrable wall around them to hide themselves.
The undercurrent of this hide-and-seek game is hidden mainly in childhood. Psychologists say that those who grew up in a neglectful or unstable environment in their childhood, have this fear in their minds since childhood. They cannot trust anyone easily. When the relationship takes a ‘serious’ turn, they feel like they are going to be locked in a cage. As a result, ‘hot-and-cold’ behavior begins. Sometimes coming very close, and the next moment moving away. Finding fault with the partner then becomes their daily habit.
However, it would be wrong to cast them as ‘villains’. It’s not unfair to ask for space or personal time in a relationship. But the problem is lack of communication. When he suddenly disappears without saying anything, the other person’s mental state reaches the edge of the abyss. There is only one way to get rid of this Kanamachi game. If you want to strengthen the bonds of the relationship, you must stop running away from fear. The only antidote to this puffer-fishing is to sit face to face with each other like ‘Mukhomukhi Basibar Banalata Sen’.
