The strength of relationships depends on respect and love. But sometimes, unknowingly or due to changing circumstances, we get stuck in such relationships where our partner considers us an option instead of a priority. In such a situation, it becomes difficult to understand whether you are important to them or just a backup. If you are feeling this way too, the pointers below may help you.
1. You always take the initiative
A healthy relationship requires effort from both parties. But if you are the one who always takes the initiative to contact or meet, then it is a matter of concern. If you stop reaching out and don’t hear back from them for months, it’s a sign that they only consider you an option.
2. Making plans at the last minute
Does your partner always think of meeting you only at the last moment? This may mean they have other plans canceled or they don’t have anything better. When someone sees you as an option, they never plan for you in advance.
3. Disappear when needed
You’re always available to them when they need you, but when you need them, they often have excuses. Excuses like “I was busy” or “I forgot” become common for them. If you see this pattern, understand that you are only an option for them.
4. Hesitant to commit
If after a lot of time has passed, your partner is still reluctant to commit, it’s possible that they are still looking for other options. They may also be hesitant to introduce you to their friends or family.
5. Lack of conversation
Your partner does not talk to you as much as a normal couple should. They show little interest in your future, desires or problems. Conversations often only happen when they want something or are bored. If you find such signs, end that relationship immediately.
