Marriage is supposed to mean the end of lifelong loneliness. But in reality it does not happen (Married Couples Feel Emotionally Lonely). Many people feel emotionally alone even in the same house, in the same room, even in the same bed. According to a recent study, about 46.4 percent of married couples in India suffer from loneliness. That is, simply being together does not mean forming an emotional connection.

Why loneliness with a partner?

1. One of the biggest problems in relationships is the lack of meaningful conversations. Due to household chores, jobs, children or financial pressures, many couples no longer talk about their feelings. Even under the same roof, the emotional distance continues to grow.

2. Many people lose their hobbies, friends, personal interests or individual identity after marriage. Depression and identity crisis are created.

3. Psychologists use the term ‘enmeshment’ to describe a relationship in which the personal boundaries between two people are almost erased. It does not increase the intimacy of the relationship; Rather, in the long run, anger, resentment and emotional exhaustion can arise.

4. Indian society still does not consider husband and wife as separate persons. If someone wants to travel alone, have different hobbies or spend time with friends, then he is considered selfish. This pressure is more for women. The husband’s spending time with his friends is still normal, but the wife’s desire to spend private time is labeled as ‘family aversion’.

According to experts, if a man can do what he likes, spend time with friends, learn something new or spend some time alone, then he can also accept the marriage relationship positively. In such a relationship, both maintain their identities as independent individuals, and are there for each other when needed.

How to repair the relationship?

• Talk to each other for at least 20-30 minutes every day, keep away from cell phones or watching television.
• Pursue your hobbies and interests. Spend time on reading books, traveling, music, sports. Also, don’t look down on your partner’s desire to spend time alone.
• Don’t hold on to grief. Discuss even minor issues openly.
• Celebrate each other’s successes. Be supportive of each other, not competitors.
• Seek counseling if necessary. Seeking help from a mental health professional is a sign of awareness, not weakness.
Remember, true love never takes away freedom; Rather, both can taste the same freedom.