Child rearing is not a one-time job, it is a lifelong responsibility. At an age when most children become moody or cranky, it becomes quite a challenge for parents to handle them. If he scolds at such an age, instead of correcting it, he becomes an enemy to his parents.

Psychologists talk about the 5:1 parenting rule (The 5:1 Parenting Rule).

Children learn from their surroundings. Along with learning good things, bad habits are also formed. It is not possible to give a good education to a child with only love without discipline. Parents have to worry about his good future. But whenever a parent scolds, no matter how well-meaning, it usually doesn’t seem acceptable to the child. Completing homework, not fighting with siblings, not using the mobile phone — these are all things that are too late to understand the child’s well-being. Therefore, hearing the prohibition initially accumulates anger, fear or resentment towards the parent in the child’s mind. Such feelings are against the healthy growth of the child.

The discussed parenting rule says that the ratio of positive to negative words spoken by parents to children should be 5:1. That is, if the child is told a scolding word, then care should be taken that he is also told 5 positive words. Instead of anger, he will want to understand his parents. He will feel that he is valued by his parents. His good deeds are of great importance to the elders. The desire to get praise will increase by itself. As a result, he will remember his parents’ prohibition. Will try to increase the number of good deeds, so that in the future will get more praise.

It really doesn’t happen all the time in everyday life. As much as there are events to rule the day, is there as much to praise? No, but psychologists say, in such cases, the parent should find the object of praise. If the child puts his things in order, eats the vegetables he dislikes with gusto, concentrates on his studies instead of scrolling the phone, then praise him. Pat your head, or cook your favorite food. If you do a bigger good, take it on a weekend trip.

Most of the parents forget to give compliments when raising their child as a human being. But these little positive words can change the child’s way of thinking, quality of life.