In today’s relationships, along with love and care, a question is also important – are you always busy in ‘charging’ the other person? Ankur Wariku has explained such a truth of relationships by giving the example of phone charger, which we often ignore. Just as someone’s phone repeatedly asks for your charger when the battery is low, similarly in some relationships too the other person keeps taking your time, attention and energy when needed.
The problem arises when the other’s phone becomes 100%, but your own battery keeps going down. Ankur’s point is that helping others and caring about relationships is a good thing, but it is not right to completely ignore oneself for this. If every time you give time, you listen and you understand, then a time may come when you lose yourself while managing the relationship.
Giving an example, Ankur Wariku said that suppose a person comes to you and says that his phone’s battery is about to run out and he needs your charger for a while. You give him your charger. Now his phone starts charging, but at the same time the battery of your phone is also decreasing. Despite this, you do not pay attention to this because your entire attention is on charging the other person’s phone.
After some time his phone’s battery gets fully charged. The person takes the charger back and walks away and remembers you only when his phone’s battery is almost drained again. Wariku says that in real life we would probably not let this happen to our charger. But many times the same mistake is made in relationships.
Linking this example to relationships, Wariku explained that sometimes we become so busy in fulfilling every need of the other person that we start ignoring our own needs. We constantly spend our time, attention and emotional energy on others. The problem starts when it becomes a one-sided habit. The other person remembers you in his problems, you are always there to help him, but when you yourself need support or time, it is not necessary that the same person is there for you.
What Wariku says simply means that it is not wrong to help others or give time to your relationships. The problem arises when while doing this you start ignoring your happiness, needs and mental peace. If you devote all your time to others and nothing to yourself, then gradually you may start feeling distanced from yourself. Therefore, it is important to understand your limitations along with love and care in relationships.
