I’m a 28-year-old officer with a demanding job that often keeps me on duty. When things are less busy, my unit allows me to come home to rest every other night.

My ex-girlfriend, a sweet and kind 24-year-old, and I dated for a year and a half. She often tied up with family and work, and since we began dating, we never went out for coffee, took a trip, or even had an outing together. To see her, I would go to her house and help her family with fieldwork.

In the beginning, our relationship seemed smooth, and I enjoyed our time together. But in the past few months, she started asking for shopping money more frequently. Initially, I didn’t mind and fulfilled her requests, but as it became more regular, I explained that I needed to save for a house and our future. She appeared annoyed and uncomfortable with this decision.

Then, almost a month ago, during an argument, she abruptly said she wanted to break up. She cited my demanding job, the time I spend away, and her struggle with loneliness. She also mentioned that my home, which is 200 km away, would mean she couldn’t easily rely on her parents if she were to move in with me after marriage.

I tried to talk things through and explain my perspective, but she was resolute. Now, I feel discouraged and want to move on, yet I can’t seem to let go of her.

What should I do?