Everyone wants their wedding day to be perfect.

No matter what your definition of the perfect might be, almost all of us want to have the day of our dreams when we tie the knot. Whether you want an extravagant ceremony with hundreds of guests or something low-key and personal to you and your partner, your is the one time when you get to be a little bit selfish and expect other people to accept your wishes.

But one is at war with her soon-to-be mother-in-law over a small part of her upcoming wedding. The groom's refuses to follow one simple request that the bride has, and now the woman is concerned that her antics will ruin the entire ceremony - especially the pictures.

In a post on Reddit, the bride said she's having a small wedding with just 30 guests, and there will be no bridesmaids or groomsmen as she and her partner want to keep things small. They're holding the ceremony in a hotel that has a "speakeasy bar vibe", and they've only set one restriction for their guests - the dress code must be black.

However, the groom's mother is refusing to follow this request, and has been sending the couple dress options that are all brightly coloured. Since the wedding is so small, the bride is worried she'll stick out and will ruin wedding photos if she's the only one wearing something that isn't black.

She said: "I'm getting married later this year, and our guest count is less than 30. I am asking everyone to wear all black. It's easy, and all outfits will match for photos. My mother-in-law has been sending my fiancé dress options for herself, all coloured. She said she doesn't want to wear black to her son's wedding.

"My wedding is being held in a hotel library with a speakeasy bar vibe. I think that makes the black dress code make more sense. Also, there is no wedding party! Since it is so small, it is just us and the guests, no bridal party or groomsmen. That's one reason I want nice, coordinated pictures with everyone!"

The bride asked commenters on her post for advice as she said she doesn't know what she should do if her mother-in-law sticks to her guns and comes in a coloured dress. She also noted that the groom's mum isn't funding any part of the wedding, so she can't use that as an excuse to do whatever she wants.

Commenters were split, however. Some told the bride that setting a dress code for a wedding is always difficult to enforce, while others questioned what her partner thought of his mum's reaction. Others gave her advice for how to handle the situation if her mother-in-law did turn up in a different dress.

One person said: "Why do you need a dress code that restricts people to one colour and a colour associated with funerals? Seems overly demanding and unnecessary." Another added: "It's to require guests to wear specific colours. They are there to celebrate you, not be your dress-up dolls. A speakeasy vibe would be so fun if people got to glam up."

But someone else advised: "Make sure she's on the end of photos so she can be edited out or photo-shopped into black."

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