Sometimes the truth hurts.
According to relationship expert Blaine Andersonmost people beat around the bush when it comes to expressing how they romantically feel about someone — especially when it’s not good.
Even though a person might mean well — doing this often leads to confusion and hurt feelings.
To help singles — specifically men — determine the true meaning of how their crush truly feels, Anderson revealed in a Tiktok video common cop-outs women use to subtly reject men.
For example, she claimed that when a woman says to a guy, “I don’t want to ruin our friendship,” she likely means, “I’m not attracted to you, but you’re my friend and I don’t want to hurt your feelings.”
If you’re unsuccessfully trying to start up a flirty text exchange, Anderson said that your crush’s excuse, “I’m just really bad at texting,” should probably be translated to, “I’m not really interested and I’m only responding to be polite.”
And if you’ve never appeared on a woman’s Instagram grid while dating — even in the early stages — that might be a tell-tale sign that she doesn’t want others to know who she’s booed up with.
If a gal says, “I don’t post who I date on social media,” when asked about not posting you — they likely mean, “I don’t want people to know we’re dating….at least not yet,” according to the expert.
If your ego is bruised by what your female love interest has — or hasn’t — been saying to you, at least it’s better than getting ghosted.
A survey by NumberBarn revealed that 75% of single people have been ghosted — meaning their flirty friend suddenly disappears.
But how do you know when the person you’re talking to is about to disappear?
Karli Kucko, a sex and relationship therapist, shared the signs that your romance could be dead.
She told the Daily Mail that a common sign is when your date is suddenly vague about plans. When someone says things like “I’ll double-check my calendar” or “I’ll let you know when I’m free next,” they might be slipping away.
The expert also suggests that singles take note when someone’s actions don’t match the sweet nothings they throw out.
Just like Anderson said, actions speak louder than words.
Another sign that your crush might be turning into a ghost is if the other person takes an uncharacteristically long time to respond to your messages — those three little dots can really haunt you.
And one of the most crushing indicators of ghosting is when your date cancels plans at the last minute with a lame excuse. Someone can only not feel well or have to work late so many times.
Proper dating etiquette: communicate clearly so people aren’t wondering, “Does she love me, does she love me not?”
