Outside Bedroom Romance: Sex for most couples means night time, a fixed bed and almost the same pattern. But when the same setting is done every time, the excitement gradually starts decreasing. Sex is also a kind of experience and in every experience there is a big role of the atmosphere.
This does not mean that you book a hotel or resort every time. This means bringing some newness in everyday places. For example, create an intimate setup with candles and blankets in the living room, spend time together in shower or bathtub, it increases closure and also makes physical touch natural. Sharing a few special moments after a late night drive in the car can also be very exciting. Calling each other in a balcony, roof or a quiet place gives a feeling of newness.
Because your brain registers a new environment as a new experience. As soon as the settings changed, your body and mind get more alert, thrilled and ready. And this excitement makes sex fresh again.
Experiment with the setting once a week just a week, nothing is big, just choose another corner instead of bed. You will feel the difference yourself.
Turn date night into a home-spa
Light massage oil, soft lighting and relaxing each other-can open a new level of intimate.
Don’t just walk in travel, Have to do love too
Next time you go on the trip, do not just keep the hotel room to sleep. New city, new atmosphere and little exploration also outside the bedroom.
Why not in the day?
Sex is not just for the night. A small intimate time during the morning of the weekend, or in the afternoon, makes a very energetic and fresh feel.
Play with lights
Instead of very dark or very bright lights, set the mood with fairy lights, lamps or candle lights. This makes the atmosphere erotic and also a little cinematic.
Music on, Moment on
Prepare a small playlist who match your mood romantic, slow or a little steam. The most simple and effective way to set a music mood is the most simple and effective way.
It is not easy to maintain romance and intimacy while living with children, nor time, nor privacy. But here a little smart planning can bring a big warmth in your relationship. If your children are small and sleep during the day, do not just put that time in settling housework, make it a couple connection time once a week. Even if small, but the connection is deep.
Many parents do not close the door in gilt, but your relationship is as important as parenting. If the children are a little older then they can be explained the concept of privacy and the door closed for some time means “Mommy-father time”.
If your children are a little older and they are allowed to watch a movie once a week, then you can use that one and a half hours to recharge your relationship. Sometimes one night, send children to grandmother and try honeymoon at home. If not new, you can get at least a quiet atmosphere. Sometimes, just holding, talking or kissing without any interruption is also to change the setting. This closure further changes to physical intimacy.
Changing the settings is like changing the destination in a way, the destination is the same, but the path is new and exciting. Therefore, if you feel that “nothing is the same as before”, then perhaps the time is to think out of bed.
