If you have ever worked in the corporate world, then you must have seen that many people are looking for another job as soon as they do one job. Whether it is career growth or dissatisfaction with the existing job, but the mind is flickering elsewhere. Now this pattern is also being seen in the world of relationships. Nowadays a word is becoming very viral on social media.
This means. When a person gradually starts making connections with someone else, so that if the first relationship is broken, then the ‘backup’ with him is already ready. Just as the monkey does not leave the earlier dal before catching the dal from one dal, some people do in relationships.
This trend is not new in relationships, but now social media has given it a name and identity. This often happens when a person- is not satisfied with his current relationship. He feels a lack of emotional security or he is afraid of loneliness. Delhi’s relationship expert Ruchi Ruh says that people who do ‘monkey barring’ are very inscribed inside. They have to be dependent on some or the other for emotional support. Apart from this, they are abstained by staying dedicated for any one relationship.
This problem increases further in a society like India. Here people are often taunted when they are single and dating is directly connected to marriage. In such an environment, many people keep their current partner ‘maintained’, but at the same time they keep searching for such a partner, so that marriage is possible. Result – Relationship becomes toxic.
It is not easy to catch this thing while living in a relationship. But there are some hints, which you can understand by paying attention to that there is something wrong- your partner suddenly started making emotional distance with you. Earlier, the things that used to be fun, now avoid talking on them. When you talk like a future or marriage, he starts clipping or giving a round. It seems that he is interested in someone else. His social energy changes, that is, do not want to appear with you in public, make a distance on social media, but the fights should not be tried to resolve, but become an excuse to avoid.
The most painful thing is that what you understood that the relationship is playing, he is already preparing to leave you for someone else. In such a situation, the person feels both shock and betrayal. Ruchi Ruh says- You think everything is fine, you are happy, but suddenly it is known that your partner was already preparing to replace you. This feeling is very painful.
-The pain from Manki Barring
-The man starts blaming himself
-The question comes again-am I not capable?
-Confidence and self -respecting hurts deeply
-Breakup pain increases even more because it sounds sudden and deception
The breakup is never easy. But it is even more difficult to overcome deception like monkey barring. For this, relationship experts give some suggestions-
Accept – It was not your fault, but the person in front was insicious and weekendy
Allow to celebrate sorrow – do not put pressure on yourself to move forward immediately
Create a support system – Talking to your friends, family or any counselor openly
Distance from social media-Avoid seeing their posts or photos again and again
Pay attention to yourself-adopt a new hobby, take care of yourself and gradually get back confidence
