Nowadays, the biggest concern of many parents is that their children do not listen to them, often get angry and stubborn. Managing children has become more challenging than ever. Earlier children used to be motivated by fear and discipline, but now they are eager to speak out, ask questions and express their opinions. When children become stubborn or irritable, parents do not understand how to handle them. However, with some sensible measures, children’s anger and stubbornness can be gradually reduced. Come, let us know some special ways to reduce the increasing irritability and anger in children.
When children cannot express their feelings properly, they react with anger or stubbornness. Moreover, when parents are busy with their daily tasks and cannot give time to children, children become stubborn in seeking attention. Excessive use of mobile, tablet and TV affects the understanding of children, making them angry even on small things. If children’s wishes are repeatedly ignored or they are scolded for every small thing, their anger increases further.
Children of today’s generation, such as Gen Z and Gen Alpha, are extremely intelligent. They form their own opinions and want to understand the logic before accepting them. Therefore, instead of controlling them, it is essential to build an emotional connection with them. When you build a friendly relationship with your child, they will naturally listen to you. Here are some simple tips that can reduce anger and stubbornness in children:
1. Talk to your children for 15 minutes every day without any advice. Experts believe that if you spend just 15 minutes with your child every day, without teaching or scolding him, and just listen to him, your child will gradually become calm and intelligent.
2. Understand your child’s feelings and don’t judge them. When your child is angry or crying, don’t try to calm him down immediately. First ask him to understand the situation, and then say, “Let’s talk.”
3. Don’t scold your child for his mistakes; Teach him. If he makes a mistake, instead of scolding him, talk to him about his mistake and discuss what he can do better next time. This will make him feel that you are his guide.
4. Create a routine and teach him that there is a time for everything. Explain to him that there is a fixed time for eating, playing, studying and using mobile. A fixed routine helps children stay balanced and more focused.
5. Use emotional words with children. Avoid using words like “You always do this.” Instead, tell your kids, “I don’t like it when you say things like that. Can we fix this?”
