Love matters are never easy. Whether the relationship is new or old, somewhere in everyone’s mind there is a question that is my partner really attached to me? Will our bonding remain the same with time? And the biggest fear is that will he ever cheat on me?
People are now taking the help of social media trends to find answers to such questions. Recently, a trend is going viral very fast, which is Birth Theory… i.e. ‘I saw a bird today.’ At first glance this seems like a normal thing, but that being said, you can understand the depth of your relationship from this small sentence.
This trend first started on TikTok. The easiest way to do this is to just tell your partner, ‘Today I saw a bird.’ Now see how they react. If the partner shows interest, asks what kind of bird it was or says ‘Really? Where did you see?’, then it is believed that he understands your feelings and small things. But if they ignore this or simply avoid the conversation by shaking their head, then it is considered a sign of emotional distance. It may sound light, but there is a deep theory of psychology hidden behind it.
According to India Today report, this bird theory is actually based on the “Bids for Connection” theory of famous American psychologist Dr. John Gottman. There are many small moments in a relationship when one partner wants a little attention or love from the other, like a small talk, a joke or simply “today I saw a bird.” If the other person reacts warmly to these moments, the relationship becomes stronger. But if ignored again and again, the emotional gap gradually starts increasing. Research has found that couples who respond positively to each other’s small gestures more than 80% of the time, have long and happy relationships.
According to experts, such trends become popular on social media because people want validation from others about their relationships. But it is not necessary that if your partner does not pay attention once, then the relationship has deteriorated. Everyone’s days are different, sometimes fatigue, sometimes stress, or simply being distracted somewhere else can be the reason. The real thing is how your partner behaves most of the time.
Love isn’t just shown in big gestures or expensive gifts, but in the little things, like paying attention, asking questions, or just laughing together. Bird Theory teaches us that relationships are not built on the test of one day, but on the small moments of every day.
