Many times we get attracted to people who do not even understand our presence. We try so hard to convince them and get closer to them that we forget our own importance.
The most painful moment comes when you find yourself running behind someone. All you wanted was love, but all you got was waiting, ignoring and disappointment. It’s a bitter truth that you can’t force someone to feel for you. If you have lost your happiness and self-respect chasing someone you love, now is the time to get yourself back.
You weren’t crazy or overly emotional. You were just trying to save the relationship in which only you were putting in the effort. Stop blaming yourself. Self-respect starts when you start speaking the truth to yourself.
Your mood and confidence have long been dependent on someone else’s reactions. Now is the time to change it. Go to new places, set new goals, learn something new, and spend time with friends. Gradually you will understand that happiness does not require any one person.
Did he message you? Did he see your story? These questions will stop you from moving forward. Every time you try to learn more about him, you pull your heart back to the same place. Instead of paying attention to his activities, focus on your life.
Many times we fall in love not with a person but with his possibilities. We think that will change one day. But self-esteem breaks when we ignore reality. See him as he is, not as you wanted him to be.
Imagine, if your friend was pursuing someone who didn’t appreciate her, what advice would you give her? Maybe it’s best to leave him. Now say the same thing to yourself. Self-respect is built when you give yourself the same love and respect that you give to others.
If he made you feel like you’re no good, start your comeback from there. Do something that makes you feel proud. Time heals wounds, but self-progress returns confidence.
Sometimes getting answers requires walking away, not talking. The distance shows you how much the other person could actually do and it also shows you your strength. One day you will realize that by moving away from the person whom you had lost yourself while running behind, you have found yourself again.
