I am 33 years old, unmarried, and people say I am beautiful and look young, though I am not sure myself. I don’t know if I will ever get married, and at the moment it seems unlikely because I don’t know any man I could marry.

The real issue is my workplace life. I also have a job. At first, many women are very drawn to me and want to become my close friends. But after a few days, something changes and I end up having no real friendship with anyone. The same women who were once interested in talking to me eventually act like I am invisible. Now I have zero female friends at my workplace. I see other women having strong friendships among themselves, but I feel extremely lonely.

When I sit in groups, people talk and laugh with each other, but no one talks to me. They do greet me politely and allow me to sit with them, but they only talk among themselves.

One woman even told me that I can share anything with her and she will not judge me. But recently she made new friends—even those who had treated her badly. During a meeting, when it ended, she invited only those new friends to go with her and stood waiting for them. I was sitting alone right in front of her, but she didn’t ask me and left with them. I felt very hurt. Later I confronted her, and she said she didn’t notice and apologized, but now she completely ignores me and prefers spending time with others.

I feel like I have no “presence” or “aura.” Even in school, no girl ever wanted to be my friend, so I have never really had close friendships. I try my best—I greet everyone warmly, smile, and even give expensive gifts on birthdays—but still I cannot form strong friendships. I feel very lonely and don’t know what I am doing wrong.

The same happens with my cousins as well. People seem to move away from me. At first, everyone wants to be my friend, but later they lose interest. I feel like I cannot keep anyone’s attention or friendship.

What should I do? I feel very lonely.

Solutions; Hina

Honestly, I thought this only happens to me. The only difference is that I don’t try to impress anyone. Because I’ve figured out that I’m out of their league, so their insecurities kick in and average women do everything they can to bring you down.

So just stay calm and be strong.

When Allah made you exceptional, He must be keeping something exceptionally good for you. Trust the process.

Irfan Pathan

You don’t have an aura problem. You are probably investing in people who are not investing in you in return. The right friends will not make you feel invisible. Stay kind, value yourself, and let genuine connections grow naturally.

Muhammad Sami

A person who is always too available ends up devaluing themselves. You should be patient and proud of yourself. They don’t deserve you.

Nowadays, people often avoid simple and straightforward individuals. Instead, they give more importance to those who insult them or do not value them.

This happens because, in their minds, they keep thinking about such people all day.

Faiza Irfan

I am very sorry to hear about your situation. As hard as it may sound, nothing is more important than your self-respect. Every person brings something to the table, and I am sure you have something unique to offer as well.

You just need to be with people who are genuinely your tribe and who naturally connect with you. Sometimes, these girls are not really the “it” or cool group—but that is okay.

No one will include or respect you if you keep chasing them with a “pick me” or “choose me” attitude. They may see that as neediness, and that is not a good impression. So do not lower your self-worth.

Frankly, a workplace is not primarily a place to make friends. Here, we should maintain professionalism, being polite and cordial. Sometimes light social interaction happens during events or gatherings, but that is different.

So keep a respectful and professional distance with your colleagues, both male and female.

Try to make friends outside work—at social gatherings, friends’ events, or family weddings.

All the best.

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