In the early days of love, the sky seems much bluer. Many colorful butterflies fly with wings spread. The leaves of the trees trembled in the gentle breeze. But time flies. Those enchanting days pass in a circle of familiar habits. And just then, unknowingly, the limescale stains begin to accumulate on the walls of the relationship. We think, this is very normal! About this often happens book! But psychologists say otherwise. According to them, we are used to making subtle mistakes that we take for granted as ‘normal’. But they gradually end the secret warmth of love.

Everyone has pride. But the first big mistake is to sit back thinking ‘It’s his fault, let him message first’ after a fight. There is no winner in this sneaky battle of arrogance, only distance increases. Experts say, the fight is not against the partner, fight against your own problems. So instead of building a wall between yourselves, raise the first hand yourself. Remember, even a simple piece of good news can melt ice in an instant.

Second, refrain from raising your voice or speaking harshly during an argument. Many people think that when people are angry, they say so! It’s all right if you apologize later. But the scars of words remain deep in the mind. There is no rule that quarrels must be resolved immediately. Take a break if necessary, calm yourself down. Don’t try to win an argument by hurting your partner’s self-esteem.

The third fatal mistake is bickering over text messages. It’s natural to get the opposite feeling when it comes to expressing your feelings through long, angry messages. Because, human emotions are never captured in screen characters. As a result, misunderstandings increase. Call before throwing tantrums. Or sit face to face. What a touch and tone of voice can accomplish, a text message of a thousand words can’t.

Fourth, don’t pull out old skeletons just when there’s a new disturbance. ‘Thou did it last time too’ — in this one line the current problem appears bringing with it a dozen more problems. If you open the old account, the mountain of anger will gradually increase. So, solve today’s problems today. Let the past be the past.

Finally comes a strange expectation – ‘If he loves me, even if he doesn’t say it, my heart will understand’. Remember, a partner is not a magician. Misunderstanding is inevitable if you don’t speak your mind. Don’t cover yourself with a blanket of silence and clearly say your likes and dislikes. The foundation of a healthy relationship is hidden in this simple, straightforward and open conversation.