A young woman has been told to “run” after sharing an exchange she had with her boyfriend.

The 21-year-old has been with her partner “Alex” for three years and the couple began discussing and in the near future. While she was scrolling on her phone, she saw a video pop up which featured “cute boy names”.

Upon hearing the name Everett, she “thought it was adorable” and immediately turned to Alex and “jokingly told him how it has to be our first born's name”.

Alex, 23, “laughed and said he liked it but it'll have to wait for the second kid," which prompted confusion. When she asked why, Alex explained “his family has a tradition that every first born boy in the family has the same name”.

Her older brother has the name, as does his uncle, grandfather and more. To keep their identity hidden, the woman chose not to disclose the name but said, while she didn’t wish to judge, the moniker is “” and certainly not her “favourite”.

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On Reddit’s Am I The A**hole forum, : “I would never say that to any of his family members, but I did tell Alex I'm not a huge fan of it. I told him I don't really want to follow those footsteps and he got upset and told me he can't be the one to break the tradition.

“He told me I was being an a**hole for suggesting anything else. I told him I won't change my mind and we should make it a middle name or find another compromise.”

She continued: “Alex has five siblings. The tradition will continue if he doesn't do it. And frankly, I think I should get a say in what I name my kid. I told him since I'm the one carrying the hypothetical child for nine months and it would already be getting Alex’s last name, I should have some say in the first name.”

The woman explained she has two older sisters who are both already married and took their husbands’ last names. She elaborated: “It makes me a little sad that when I marry Alex, my last name will go out of existence. I've talked to him about hyphenating ours, something he doesn't want to do.

“But anyways, I really don't want to name our first born son, if we ever even have a boy, that name. He thinks I'm 'whining for no reason' since we don't even have a kid yet and I'm not pregnant, but I think my concerns are valid. I've told some friends about it and most of them think I'm overreacting over something that doesn't even exist yet.”

Hundreds of people rushed to the comments section to share their thoughts, with many urging the woman to rethink her relationship with Alex entirely.

One popular response reads: “The issue isn't the name; the issue is your bf's attitude toward you having ideas that differ from his: he dismisses your wants, and puts his family's tradition ahead of you. To him, it's not even a discussion.

“That's actually a little scary. You give two examples of him being inflexible (your last name and a baby name); I'll bet you can think of other incidents that fit this pattern, too. This is a glimpse into your future. Are you sure you want the rest of your life to look like this?”

Another replied: “This exactly. The entitlement and disregard for your wishes OP are a huge red flag. Also, your friends not having your back on this suck too.”

A third advised: “After living with a guy who thought like that, and worse, for 30+ years, I suggest you RUN.”

Someone else added: “Great conversation to have before marriage and kids. You get to decide if this is a deal breaker for you. What other subjects does he believe you have no say in?”