In many cultures, marriage is seen as a significant milestone, and as you get older, relatives often begin asking when you're planning to get married. While these questions can come from a place of love and concern, they can also be uncomfortable, especially if you're not yet ready or are focused on other priorities. Here are some strategies to help you respond to these questions without getting upset or uncomfortable.
1. Understand Their Concern
Before reacting, try to understand why your relatives are asking these questions. They may be genuinely concerned about your happiness or may feel societal pressure about age and marriage. Recognizing their concern can help you respond more calmly and empathetically, instead of feeling defensive.
2. Give a Short and Clear Reply

If you're not ready for marriage, it’s best to keep your response short and to the point. For example, you can say:
"I'm not thinking about marriage right now as I am focusing on my career/personal goals." This provides a clear response without giving the question much more attention or prolonging the conversation.

3. Stay Calm and Composed
It can be frustrating when you're repeatedly asked about marriage, but getting angry or upset will likely make the situation worse. Instead, try to stay calm and composed, and give your answer in a polite tone. If you’re feeling stressed, take a deep breath before responding.

4. Use Humor
Sometimes, injecting humour into the conversation can help ease the tension. You might say something lighthearted like:
"When the right time comes, I’ll let you know." This approach adds a touch of humour to a delicate subject, and it signals that you are not uncomfortable with the question, just not ready to discuss it.

5. Set Boundaries
If you've explained your situation multiple times and a relative continues to press the issue, it may be time to set clear boundaries. You can politely tell them that you prefer not to discuss your marriage plans at the moment:

"I understand your concern, but I’d rather not talk about this right now." This sets a clear limit without offending anyone, while also protecting your privacy and personal decisions. Sample Answers to Common Marriage Questions:

Relative: "You're of age now, when are you getting married?"

You: "I know you care, but I'm focusing on my career right now. When the time is right, I’ll share the news."

Relative: "Don't you like anyone? Any boy/girl?"

You: "Right now, I have other priorities. When I'm ready for marriage, I will think about it."

Relative: "Your parents are concerned about your marriage."

You: "I understand their concern. We've discussed it, and I'm managing things at my own pace."

Remember:
Marriage is a deeply personal decision. You shouldn’t feel pressured into making a choice just because others are asking. Your life and timing are yours to decide. Communicate your thoughts politely but firmly to maintain harmony while still respecting your boundaries.